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The guy at a laundromat in Buffalo showed me a trick for meeting neighbors and I keep seeing people mess it up
I moved to Buffalo 11 months ago and met almost nobody until a stranger at the laundromat on Elmwood told me to stop saying 'let me know if you need anything' because nobody ever calls that in. Instead he said to give people one small, specific ask, so I asked a neighbor to borrow a ladder and we've been trading tools and watching each other's dogs since March. Why does everyone default to the vague offer instead of just asking for one tiny thing?
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logan2369d ago
Tiny ask beats big offer every time. People say let me know if you need anything because it costs them nothing and puts zero pressure on them. But it also gives the other person nothing to grab onto, so the relationship just sits there. Asking to borrow a ladder or a screwdriver gives your neighbor a job to do and a reason to knock on your door later. It flips you from the guy offering help into the guy who needed help, and that makes you safe to talk to. Most folks want friends but they wait for the other person to make the first real move.
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